As you’ve undoubtedly noticed, I’ve been rather quiet lately. I’ve been flat out like a lizard drinking at my day job, and metaphysically wise, I’ve been put on the back foot by the full moon – which leads me to my post for today: keeping your metaphysical self going during rough times. Just like how it’s easy to start running in the morning, then the weather gets colder and all of a sudden it’s half an hour later and you’re still in bed… No? Just me? It can be tempting to let your metaphysical interests slide while you’re focusing on what’s in front of you. Rooms go unsmudged, meditation stops, tarot decks gather dust and you notice suddenly that you’re feeling off balance and out of sorts. Below are some things I’ve come across that help me, and hopefully they either help you too, or inspire you to find your own metaphysical electrical tape. I am not a medical or mental health practitioner, however this is my way of sharing some strategies that help keep me up:
1) Know the warning signs, and realise when your energy is vulnerable. As the the saying goes “You are responsible for the energy you bring into this space”. Your energy will effect you, how you treat others and it will absolutely disrupt other sensitive people if it’s coming from a low place. For myself, my warning sign is the full moon – I have friends who talk about the blessings of lunar energy, but for me it means headaches and overall moodiness. It feels like something is sloshing around me, my head feels like it’s stuffed with wet concrete. That said, my day job has me talking to people all the time, so I can’t afford to have my energy affecting others – I need to control it. When my energy is vulnerable, I’ll always consciously monitor myself, and ensure I’m acting in the way that will produce the highest good, regardless of the personal outcome. It’s where I consciously apply the Zen proverb “You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” Admittedly, I don’t do it for those time frames, but my meditation lately is to watch the sun come up while clearing my mind. Having some time that’s just mine and letting go of any drama I’m carrying, so I start the new day fresh.
2) Create/nurture a positive mindset It’s sad, but bad things happen to good people. When I’m dealing with an adverse situation, rather than retreating into myself as my past self would often do, I’ll read positive quotes, inspirational stories and reach out to friends. I’ll start thinking of things I’m grateful for – my health, my family and friends, things like that. There’s some great Facebook Pages like (Steve Maraboli – inspirational posts) ; (Doreen Virtue’s Angelic guidance and information posts) ; (Temple of Balance’s amazing meditations and guidance) as well as pages like (Think positive to make things positive) to kick start your day. I’m not particularly strong in the Christian faith, but I enjoy Joel Osteen’s page – it’s positive and relatable. There’s truth in the saying by Henry Ford “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t-you’re right”.
3) Get some perspective You’re on your own journey. It’s not always going to be bouquets of roses, but it won’t always be buckets of bricks, either. I have siblings and friends that are all doing things different to me. It’s taken me a long time to realise that our journey isn’t all identical, and we’re going to get different results. We’re not doing “better” or “worse” that each other, it’s simply different. Rather than focusing on not having the house/kids/partner/job you think you should have, start small and basic. OK, you’re stuck in bed with a cold as you read this on your phone or computer. Yes, illness sucks, but if you’ve got your brain functioning and can see and read, you’re already ahead of a lot of people. Be grateful for what you have, not envious of what you don’t have.
4) Ask for help from your guides or the angels As we’ve covered before, your guides and the angels WANT to help. They don’t do this because it amuses them or passes time, it’s because they have a desire to help people who ask. In my interactions with my guides and the angels, they’ll provided straight-up advice and guidance to help me move forward, or they have moved events around me and increased my awareness of what was happening so I would understand the lesson – but I’ve asked for help. It’s like the neighbour next door – ready with a cup of sugar if you ask, but if you don’t ask then they don’t know that you want anything.
5) Be kind to yourself Oh goodness, this can be tough. It’s something I’ve certainly been struggling with – I’m a perfectionist who is detail oriented, so if things aren’t just so then it can mess me up. I’m learning to drive at the moment, and it can be both extremely rewarding and incredibly frustrating – any time I make a mistake, I can be harsh with myself, despite the fact that I haven’t killed anyone and that the reason they call it learning is that you’re not supposed to know everything all at once. When I get in this scenario, I do my best to approach myself with the love and kindness that I’d like a friend to show me – I focus on my breathing so I can do my best to clear out the distractions in my head, and I don’t let the negative voices get too loud. OK, I goofed, but it hasn’t caused any harm and it’ll be ok in the scheme of things. A more metaphysical example is meditation – “C’mon, inner peace, I don’t have all day!” I start to clear my head, and then it’s going well and I’m achieving clarity almost but what am I having for dinner OH DAMN WHAT THE EFF. It’s cool. I’m not going to get it all at once, but little by little I’ll get there.
I hope these thoughts have been valuable, and I’d love to hear any of your thoughts and experiences – when you realise your metaphysical pipe has burst, how do you fix it?